Urgency, advocacy, and biz model limits – it’s not what you think!

July 31, 2013 by     1 Comment

Each week I send a short note or thought to my private clients via email. I base it in something I’m noticing or thinking about that doesn’t quite make it to a broad-based article, but feels timely for them.


This week I wrote them this:

What is urgency? I notice the ebbs and flows in business, and how you are each balancing your personal life goals with your business goals and deciding each day where to focus your energy.

There are times in business when you need to pull out all the stops to bring in clients, launch the program, launch the website, book the speaking gigs, make the money to fund a marketing activity, etc. And it’s all out urgency. Then there are times in which you focus in on consistency, sustainability, and peaceful progression.

One is not good or bad, right or wrong. The empowering part is choosing. When you are aware of right where you are and what your focus is, you can bring joy to total urgency, and joy to peaceful allowing. The struggle comes when you think you should be one way and you’re not lining up with it.

I spoke with a VIP Day client who is waiting to get all her ducks in a row to start spreading the word about her new business. For her, the urgency needed isn’t in bringing in the clients, or even in lining up the ducks. The urgency is in creating the experience of being someone who lets her ducks be scattered and serves clients anyway. The struggle was in not being AWARE of her true limiting pattern.

Hourglass - UrgencyThe next client I spoke with was feeling a huge urgency to make sales. So much so that she was actually willing to look at the Truth about why she wasn’t making them. She wasn’t reaching out to anyone because she had no habit and therefore no experience of reaching out. Why? Because creating a ROUTINE of making calls felt so confining that she would do anything to avoid it. It wasn’t even the calls – though that was scary, we’d worked through it. It was the ROUTINE that felt like death as she was fighting against a former belief that routine would make her boring, trapped, and a whole host of other negative consequences she’d experienced earlier in life. Lack of AWARENESS was her limit.

I subtitled this article “It’s not what you think.” Because whether you need to change your sense of urgency, your brand advocacy, or your business model, it’s the AWARENESS of the real problem, or lack thereof, that is holding you back.


We hosted a brunch at the house this weekend. There were quite a few people and there was lots of buzz about a new Netflix Series, “Orange is the New Black.” I thought this must be something everyone knew about but me, like housewives and Kardashians. Turns out, there was one person at the party who had fallen in love with the show, and had told so many people in one hour that I had the perception I was the one who was in the dark. One advocate created buzz.

With advocacy for your own business, brand, or offerings, the same can be true. See, we assumed it was a great marketing campaign, hitting everyone with 7 strategic touchpoints, that created the buzz, but it was one person in our crowd. You don’t have to execute every possible marketing approach to create buzz about what you’re doing – you need to design so that your message so perfectly hits home with a few people that they can’t NOT tell everyone. I’m seeing advocates pop up for my BELIEVE YOURSELF CHALLENGE, and most people are even telling a few friends. I didn’t engineer that. Advocacy just happens with great insight into the who, what, and why of your offer.

People want buzz, or advocacy, for their offerings, of course. Trying to use all possible marketing touchpoints to create buzz for something that has no alignment doesn’t work. True advocacy stems from natural alignment. Start with your AWARENESS of who your offering really speaks to and why, and arm those people with the Truth that will spread like wildfire.


My favorite awareness gap to help a client identify is one that has to do with a limitation in their business model. Why? Because they are the easiest to fix. And often we aren’t AWARE when they sneak up on us, so we are solving different problems instead!

What’s is a business model limit? If you want to make $100K per year, you can effectively serve 2 new clients a month, and you are charging $2500 per client, you have a business model limit. Your 24 clients can only yield you $60K. You’ve got to raise your rates, or become more efficient so you can serve more clients in order to hit your goal.

I recently faced a business model limit. I’ve built a steady, solid business doing things a certain way. Offering specific entry-level programs to lead people to my work and bringing them on as 1-on-1 clients in my Profit Acceleration Circle (PAC). For me to have the life I want, serve my clients the way I want, and deliver the effectiveness and value I want, I recognized I needed to cap my PAC program. I knew this at some level and had been thinking about it without great urgency. And I hadn’t solved my business model limit. One week I had a handful of conversations with potential clients, and most of them did not lead to a clear, decisive conclusion of buying or saying no to my programs. This was an unusual problem for me, and was out of alignment with my commitment.

When I looked deeper I saw the answer. I’d hit my business model limit, and I hadn’t adapted to my new reality. Not because there wasn’t a solution, or that I wasn’t willing to do what it takes, but because I wasn’t AWARE of the real limit. [I've got two very specific gateways now to access time with me, and I love it!]

These are three vastly different examples, but a common source – the root issue is generally not what you think. When you create AWARENESS of the root issue, you’ll be delighted in your own solutions!


What Do You Have to Prove, Really?

July 24, 2013 by     Leave a Comment

Thinking and DoubtingIn last week’s article, “Is the Universe Tricking You?” we talked about the Cycle of Proving and how it shows up to have you question and doubt your decisions.  The Universe is never tricking you, it’s simply revealing to you some aspect of your subconscious mind that wants you to stay safe, and small.  Safe and small in a way that honors the patterns it smartly created when you were just a kid and needed them.  It’s time to let them go.

As a reminder, the “V” in our PROVING acronym stands for “Validate Fear.”  When you Peek your big vision, Remove the resistance, and Open your mouth to take action, something will happen to validate your own subconscious fear of actually having the vision be real.  It is GUARANTEED.

Where you go from there simply has to do with how practiced you are at moving through the fear.  As you make firm decisions without looking back, and put them into irreversible action, the fear will no longer grab you.  When you let the fear win, your box becomes smaller.

So here are your two options.   

When the old Cycle of Proving wins, it looks like this.

I – Ignore Inner Knowing.  You let the thing that happens make you question and doubt your own inner knowing about your vision.  For me, early on this could happen when someone simply gave me a sideways glance as I shared my vision.  I was so programmed to look for external approval, I’d give up my dream at the drop of a hat.

N – Next Best Thing.  Next we settle.  We say, well, maybe I wanted an experiential event with 8 people who pay me well, but maybe I’ll just do a workshop for $97 and see how that goes.  And that becomes the new norm we talk ourselves into.

G – Give Up.  The next best thing is never going to be as fulfilling as honoring your calling, so you’ll eventually give up.  Because what fun is it to live an almost life?

Please, Break the Cycle!

Here is your new option:

I – Interrupt the Pattern.  When you recognize that your external circumstance is simply a reflection of your internal thought process that are ready to be healed, you can actively interrupt the pattern.  This may look like ignoring what everybody else says, not asking for advice, investing in yourself when you normally wouldn’t, getting on stage even when it scares you.

N – New Experience.  The pattern gets broken when you give yourself a new experience.  The new experience is the only way your subconscious will learn that new patterns are actually safe.  You cannot think your way into the new thing feeling safe.  It will feel scary and all levels of analysis will not change that.  But the new experience will blow up your assumptions in an instant.  For me the biggest new experiences in my journey have been the times when I’ve made decisions without a full on analysis and pro/con list, but rather just trusted my own inner knowing and gone for it.

Will-feel-like-death.  That’s when you’re fully alive.

G – Greater Vision.  The result of breaking the pattern?  You’ll actually see a BIGGER vision for yourself.  Once you know yourself as someone who can do things differently, and become the person who is willing to honor it, you will get greater messages about what’s possible for you.  You are only seeing the tip of the iceberg right now, I am certain.  When you become the person who can handle seeing more, you’ll see more faster than you can imagine.

What now?  Go out and break the cycle!

Want support?  Join my new free program here:  http://believeyourselfchallenge.com

See you Monday!


Is the Universe Tricking You?

July 17, 2013 by     Leave a Comment

I got an email in my inbox as I settled in to write an article.  It was from a client who had made a decision to make a change in an area of her life that was distracting her from her business.  She’d made a plan, and then learned something that made her plan seem harder.

LadderShe said, “I think Universe is trying to trick me into wanting to postpone.”  :)

Now the next line was, “I’m not going to.”   Phew.

So the Universe isn’t tricking you.  I can get how it can seem that way at times.

It’s actually your subconscious mind that’s tricking you!  Just as bad, right? :)

Your subconscious mind is programmed to keep you safe, and until now safe looked like, well, whatever your life looks like.  But safe and business don’t mix.  The business of your dreams that is calling to you most likely lies outside of your current default programming (aka comfort zone).  So how does it work?

The Cycle of Proving Begins

The cycle of proving describes what happens in your business, and gives you two options for how to respond (you can learn more at www.CycleofProving.com).

P – Peek your big vision.  This is what happened to all of us that got us into this business in the first place!  You see something possible.  Maybe it’s a new structure for your team, or new model for how you work with clients.  You get a glimpse.

R – Remove resistance.  Generally your world is not completely set up to do the big vision – if it were, you’d be doing it, right?  So in the second step you clear the decks, either in your life or in your mindset, to make the new thing feel possible.

O – Open your mouth.  Here you start to tell people.  Or maybe you just practice telling yourself.  This stage could also look like taking an action in alignment with your goal, like making a deposit on a business-building activity, or showing up in a new environment.

V – Validate your fear.  THIS IS WHERE THE RUBBER MEETS THE ROAD.  At this point, something will happen to validate your fear.  There is no doubt.  It will happen.  Period.  It could be a sideways look from an acquaintance, or a ‘no’ that disrupts your plans, but it WILL HAPPEN.

This is the subconscious mind reflecting back to you its current level of awareness.  Whatever you are concerned about or afraid about, your default energy state, will show up right after you move toward your goal.  Period.  When you know this, you will be ready, and move forward anyway.

From here, you’ve got two options on how to proceed.  Yup, two.  I’ll cover that in next week’s article.  (The I-N-G is waiting!)

For now, if you look, you’ll be able to see the form in which your fear shows itself to you.  You’ll see your own theme (Making people happy over yourself?  Not risking looking stupid? Money fear?).  Watch what happens this week and isolate your pattern.  It’s the key to keeping the Universe from tricking you!

The Universe loves you and wants what’s best for you more than you want it for yourself… until next week!


Its all about the platform, baby!

June 26, 2013 by     Leave a Comment

I had dinner with an old friend in New York City. We recalled our early corporate days at Procter & Gamble, a time when more formal clothing was the norm for her, a woman who joined me for dinner in workout clothes. Back then, even running experiments in the pilot plant she’d donned a suit jacket.

And I, well, I wore polyester pants and platform shoes. No it wasn’t the 70s but I was 22 yeas old and fun, for a chemical engineer.

Platform ShoesThis article isn’t about platform shoes, fun as it is to recall the days of actively shunning the corporate uniform. (Truth, I did have my share of suit jackets and ‘casual Friday’ polo shirts – yuck).

It’s all about your platform – the one on which you are building your business.

I attended the Hay House “Writer’s Workshop” this weekend. I was inspired and impressed by the speakers, Kris Carr and Gabrielle Bernstein. However, the main message, or point, of the workshop was all about the importance of building your platform.

This is part of what I help my clients to do, so while I was expecting to learn something new and fabulous, I did learn how many people still don’t know this. Traditional publishers will rarely publish a book written by an author without a platform – a way to reach people. You need a subscriber list, a TV show, a record of sales of another product, etc., for a publisher to have a strong sense of faith that you will actually sell books. Of course anyone can self-publish, but again, you need people to purchase your book once you go to press (or before!)

So, the good news? YOU can build a platform. No problem! You just need to decide on a mission that matters to you, hone in on your genius (what you do naturally brilliantly), and get to work spreading your message! One foot in front of the other and before you know it, you’ll have a platform.

(Not sure how to build your platform, check out AIM for Profit, here!)

Back to my friend and I at dinner. The impetus for our remembrance of our corporate dress code was this – a discussion about being willing to be yourself at work. She has found herself in a job that truly lets her be her because she refuses to be anyone else. This is different than the outlook she held at 22.

That’s the key to a strong platform, by the way. Build a brand that truly represents YOU. Kris Carr started with her documentary film Crazy, Sexy Cancer. It showed the raw her for better and worse, and she still shows up that way today. Gabrielle Bernstein’s latest offering is called “God is my Publicist.” They are each clear about the personality they bring their platform, and it shows in the success they enjoy.

What’s one action you can take today, in alignment with who you truly are, to build awareness of you, your uniqueness, and your message, AND capture names and emails? Now do it!


Not My People

June 19, 2013 by     Leave a Comment

Your unique brand of value empowers you to say no!

Picture yourself in a room filled with clients. You don’t have to try to use fancy marketing language in order to impress them, you can just be yourself and they get you.

They know they are “your people” and they are in the exact right place.

Have you had this experience?

I rarely use the word deserve, but you deserve that experience.

So how do you get there?

You say no to a whole lot of people and the right people show up.

Sounds simple right? But how do you know who the right people are and how do you get them to recognize you?

Here are a few tips:

  1. Be real. Refuse to hold back who you are try to look good. Ever. Never take a ‘not so bad’ gig in hopes of a better future gig.
  2. Know where you come from and what makes you unique. Your life history is the best clue to the essence of your brand. Most people need an outside source to help them see the thread of genius that is totally “them.” When your brand is in alignment, you’ll tell your full out honest story and it people will get that you are doing the exact work you were born to do.
  3. Work from insight. You need to get so clear who your people are that you can articulate something about them that most people can’t see until you say them. This will evolve over the course of your business. You’ll articulate an insight about your brand. You’ll articulate an insight about your marketing campaigns. There is something you can see about your ideal people that when you market to that, they will know you are talking to them.
  4. Make it fun. Once you articulate the insight, you’ll create your marketing idea. It should be fun and interesting to you and be consistent with your personality without having to put on an act. That’s how you get a room full of people who resonate with your message.

Paddle Boarding GroupIn my client retreat we did an excursion of paddle board yoga. I was nervous about this because it is such a specific type of sport. I was also nervous about taking the time to go play like this. But one of the things I know about my ideal people is that they all have some sort of hobby or passion that they have stopped making time for because of their business. It was actually an important business activity for me to make time for that.

Because I had a room of “my peeps” it worked beautifully. People either loved everything about the activity, enjoyed the personal challenge of it, or saw the opportunity in opting out to enjoy the beach. It was such a lovely experience to bring a part of me that I love to my work!

The other experience at my client retreat was an activity I created for my people to practice sharing their message. The best ah-ha in the room was someone who was beaming at the realization that she spoke to someone who was clearly “not her people.”

If you’ve never had that experience, I promise that you are not clear about your brand. Lets get you clear!


And a little bonus to share more of what I’m loving!  I have been loving this song lately… I’m not a believer in wishes, but this rapper is reflecting his desire to be real and be him no matter what. I love it!

Yeah, I could use a dream or a genie or a wish
To go back to a place much simpler than this
‘Cause after all the partyin’ and smashin’ and crashin’
And all the glitz and the glam and the fashion

And all the pandemonium and all the madness
There comes a time where you fade to the blackness
And when you starin’ at that phone in your lap
And you hopin’ but them people never call you back

But that’s just how the story unfolds
You get another hand soon after you fold
And when your plans unravel in the sand
What would you wish for if you had one chance?

So airplane, airplane, sorry I’m late
I’m on my way so don’t close that gate
If I don’t make that then I’ll switch my flight
And I’ll be right back at it by the end of the night.

Yeah, somebody take me back to the days
Before this was a job, before I got paid
Before it ever mattered what I had in my bank
Yeah, back when I was tryin’ to get a tip at subway

And back when I was rappin’ for the thrill of it
But nowadays we rappin’ to stay relevant
I’m guessin’ that if we can make some wishes out of airplanes
Then maybe, oh, maybe I’ll go back to the days

Before the politics that we call the rap game
And back when ain’t nobody listened to my mix tape
And back before I tried to cover up my slang
But this is for the hater, what’s up, Bobby Ray

So can I get a wish to end the politics?
And get back to the music that started this shit
So here I stand, and then again I say
I’m hopin’ we can make some wishes out of airplanes

Can we pretend that airplanes
In the night sky are like shooting stars?
I could really use a wish right now
Wish right now, wish right now

Can we pretend that airplanes
In the night sky are like shooting stars?
I could really use a wish right now
Wish right now, wish right now

I could really use a wish right now
I, I, I could really use a wish right now
A wish, a wish right now